Society likes to peg the average mom as hormonally imbalanced and, as a result, mentally and emotionally unstable. Hormonal moms have been the butt of one too many jokes, and the running cliche of one too many a sitcom. But the truth is, struggling with hormonal imbalance is not a joke, it can be seriously disabling and may even be fatal.
The female endocrine system is specifically designed to work overtime, putting out many different hormones in order to support a pregnancy and then endure the miraculously transforming experience of labor and delivery, and THEN supply the baby with the ever-evolving source of nutrition by the production of milk. It is truly a miracle! But between the adrenaline surges and oxytocin spikes and dips, it’s no secret that it is quite the emotional roller coaster for the average mom, to say the least! Moms all over the globe are struggling with the symptoms of hormonal imbalance to many different degrees, but the one thing that can be said about this ride of their lives is that the hormonal roller coaster of motherhood is completely life-changing.
Yes, it’s true. No matter who you are, you can’t escape the fact that childbearing changes us each individually, forever…on the inside. There is a certain sacrifice to creating life and I don’t just mean in our physique. We, as a society, should hold moms to a higher regard and a certain level of respect for their sacrifice, rather than make fun of the hormonal instability that is a direct result of their sacrifice.
But I get it. If we don’t laugh about it a little, we could potentially be swallowed up by a big dark cloud of frustration and shame. Keeping a sense of humor is very important. But what about encouragement? What about support? What about appreciation?
Isn’t all that important?
Perhaps society assumes that hormonal imbalance isn’t anything to take seriously? Even medical professionals don’t really seem all that worried about hormonal imbalance. Stress on the Endocrine System seems to be a completely normal and temporary human state in our society, eventually having the ability to heal and correct itself. And while all that may be true, how long should it take? And by what methods is natural healing encouraged? By a healthy diet? By restorative sleep? By reducing stress?
Moms, in general, happen to be some of the most stressed out, sleep deprived, malnourished people I know!… Myself included!
From a hormonal perspective, it is absolutely crazy what a woman’s body endures to bring a person into this world. Medically speaking, that much stress on any one system in the body would likely be treated with some type of physical therapy, yet promotion of metabolic support, and encouragement toward balancing hormones naturally, is strangely unheard of in the average postpartum doctor’s visit.
You would think, with all the leaps and bounds made in the medical industry, that (at the very least) advice would be offered to postpartum patients in terms of at-home therapeutic care, in an effort to naturally support their patient’s Endocrine Systems and help to balance their hormones after they’ve had a baby.
But while medical advancements have made leaps and bounds in almost every regard, still the topic of postpartum hormone support remains quiet, prompting myself and many other moms to take their health into their own hands.
I think it’s safe to say that this “temporary” hormonal imbalance seems to be overall ignored by society because it is so normal, and seeming harmless, and statistically not life threatening. Yes, this is all generally true, but extreme cases of imbalance can lead to Adrenal Crisis, which can have lasting effects on a mom’s life and can even become fatal. Once a person gets too far away from homeostasis, the results can be catastrophic, leading to an embolism, stroke, or heart attack. It doesn’t get any truth-ier than that.
But when a person passes away from any of those, it is labeled as only any of those, with no elaboration as to the cause of the fatality. I’m not saying that all heart attacks and strokes are a direct cause of a severe hormonal imbalance, but I am saying that hormones play a vital role in ALL major life functions and should be acknowledged as such.
On my mother’s side of the family, it has always been a strange coincidence that both of my great-grandmothers passed away at the age of 32, within the first six weeks following their final labor and delivery. Not from the actual act of labor and delivery itself, but during the early weeks postpartum. I can’t help but wonder, would their fates have been different had postpartum Endocrine Support been provided? And how much has actually changed in the area of hormonal support since the 1940’s?… And, given my age and genetic disposition, would I be able survive another pregnancy? As it stands right now, I am one year postpartum and STILL desperately trying to recover!
I know I’m not alone though. I know there are other hormonal moms are out there at the end of their ropes too, working tirelessly with a desperation to live, to achieve some semblance of normalcy in their lives again (let alone homeostasis). We are out there, healing ourselves in secret because we are ashamed of our symptoms. We are out there, hiding ourselves away until we can fully be ourselves again. We are each fighting a silent battle for the authority over our bodies that nobody sees or understands.
And so the hidden, yet somehow comical, stigma of the hormonally imbalanced mom continues in our society, threatening to push us while we teeter over the edge of insanity.
The Hormonal Mom: able to snot-cry buckets of tears at the drop of a hat!
The Hormonal Mom: able to flip out at a total stranger in public from single glance!
Let’s all point and laugh at the hormonal mom! Haha haha ha!… yeah, let’s not.